I sometimes find myself doing ‘busy’things (This is Val Speaking) and although I feel great because I’m being busy, at the end of it I realize I haven’t done the job that really needs to be done. Like yesterday for example, I was cleaning the office like crazy and it looks great. Everything is in it’s place, and everything has a place, and today I want to carry on doing it.
Except! I have a book proposal that absolutely needs to be written. A clean office–great, necessary and makes me feel good. A book proposal–amazing, fantastic, makes everyone feel good. So today, I am going to write the book proposal and then continue with the office clearing. After all, the office will always be here to be cleaned, the book proposal–well that could be an opportunity missed!
So today, take stock of what you are doing and do your number one acitvity first. Do the most important thing first. Then do the other things knowing that you’ve done the right thing. Rock N Roll Jeff & Val
October 5th, 2007
Posted by Val Gee.
Every goal no matter if it’s short term or long term start off with small steps and continue by just taking one step after another. Some people like to have definate goals written down and checked off daily, such as, “I didn’t eat bread today and I am nearer to my goal weight.” Or they can be even taken out of your hands, such as having a savings amount deducted automatically from your bank account.
Whatever goals you have or are making, the important things is to stick with it, and if it’s not working for you change it. Goals should make you feel good in the attainment of them. You should be feeling better and better as you see your clothes fitting better, or your savings account getting bigger.
So keep with your goals, make new ones, enjoy them, relsih the results and have fun. Rock N Roll Jeff & Val
October 4th, 2007
Posted by Val Gee.
It’s very easy to worry about things. And the things we worry about most are always either in the past or in the future. Unless we are actually sick or have a situation happening right now in this very moment that is worrying, what is the point?
If we worry about things that are not in our present situation we are really putting our energy into the ethers. Meaning we are wasting our energy. Unless it is something we can do something about, right now, worrying is pointless.
I cannot emphasize this too strongly because worry creates stress and stress creates a feeling of negativity and negativity creates an unhappy life. So stop the worrying and start living right now in this very moment. Look around you and appreciate what you have, where you are and who you are with. Rock N Roll Jeff & Val
October 3rd, 2007
Posted by Val Gee.
Listening is the best tool in communication because it gives us so much. First, it gets us out of our own head. It stops the ‘monkey chatter’ of our minds where we are just talkiing to ourselves all the time. Second it gives us time before jumping in with a knee jerk reaction and saying something that is better left unsaid. Third, if we listen for the truth of what the other person is saying, then we gain knowledge, and knowledge is power.
Today then, lets listen to what is being said and use this amazing communication tool to make our lives better, to understand our colleagues, coworkers, friends and family members. Listen in-between the words for the small nuances, listen to the silences and listen to understand. Rock N Roll Jeff & Val
October 2nd, 2007
Posted by Val Gee.
Being aware of things is the first step in making any change. If you are not aware of what you are doing or not doing, it is impossible to change. However, sometimes that awareness can be not what we want it to be. In other words, we don’t always like to see ourselves in a bad light, or become aware of some behavior that we are donig that creates problems or upsets.
Do not despair. Be aware of what you are doing and at the same time, do not put any judgement onto it. Whatever it is, you can change it if you want to. If you are eating too much, eat a little less. If you are not exercising enough, park the car futher away and walk to your destination. Taking these small steps is encouraging for you and will make a big impact on your life.
So become aware. Don’t judge, take small steps and remember, every journey begins with just one small step. Rock N Roll Jeff & Val
October 1st, 2007
Posted by Val Gee.
How you use your time is an indication of what is important to you. However, sometimes we put off the really important ‘work related’ things because either a) we are worried about doing them, b) we think they will take too much time, c) they are too hard to do. The problem is that the really important work related projects are the ones we need to do first, and sometimes we put it off.
Today, do the things that are important work wise. And if someone asks you to do something simple, like send an email, or make a phone call, do it and then continue to do the really iimportant work related task. Successful people get lots of things done, and they get the important things done first and fit in the small stuff too.
Time is always about prioritizing things. Your job is to prioritize things so that you do a great job at work, you are seen as someone who gets things done, you take on responsibilities and can be counted on, and you end your day feeling great about the things you have done. So just for today, take action and get the important stuff done. Rock N Roll Jeff & Val
September 28th, 2007
Posted by Val Gee.
Everything that we do affects other people some way or another. And if we put forth our best effort it is impacting others in a great way….so let’s do it. Let’s make today a great day. Let’s do everything with our very best effort whether it is something small or big, lets be great! Rock N Roll Jeff & Val
September 27th, 2007
Posted by Val Gee.
Everything begins with a thought and you choose the thoughts that you want to put your energy and power into. If you have a negative thought like being jealous, anxious, worried or fearful, you choose to give it power by continuing to think about it and add more negative thoughts to it, or you choose to cut the thought off at the knees and think of a more positive thought.
Imagine this scenario: Thoughts are floating around in your space all day long. Some event happens, or a person walks into your space which triggers a certain thought. You then, either water and feed the thought until it grows bigger and bigger, stronger and stronger, or you decide not to water or feed the thought and it dies away.
Moment, by moment we get to choose the thoughts that we feed. And a great way to feed the positive thoughts is to appreciate what is. Appreciate everything good in your life. Appreciate the people, events, situations and circumstances in your life and those positive thoughts will grow and become more substantial as time passes. Eventually these positive thoughts that you are nurturing will become habits and these habits will help you to develop amazing things in your life.
So appreciate, appreciate, appreciate and watch what happens. Notice that the more you appreciate, the more things to appreciate turn up in your life. Rock N Roll Jeff & Val
September 26th, 2007
Posted by Val Gee.
I was talking to a friend last night who had worked with Clement Stone (founder of AON Insurance companies). He said that Clement always used to say, “To be happy you have to make other people happy.”
This makes so much sense to me. Not only that, it takes us out of the “me, me, me” way of thinking. It brushes aside the introspective way of being, where everything is about how we feel, and how others make us feel.
Making others happy shows us a different way of being because in order to make other people happy we have to listen to their needs, search for ways to make others comfortable, and actually practice the Golden Rule.
Just for today, experiment. Just for today search for ways to make other people happy and at the end of the day, see how it made you feel. Jot down some notes about it so that next time you are feeling low, and miserable, you will remember, that it only takes a moment to make others happy, but the residual affect of happiness within yourself may well last for ever. Rock N Roll Jeff & Val
September 25th, 2007
Posted by Val Gee.
We all love priase and being told that we are amazing. The best kind of praise you can have howwever, is the praise that comes from within. When you have done a great job, tell yourself, “I’ve just done a great job!” Praise yourself, “I am amazing.” Blow your own trumpet to yourself, “I am really proud of myself.”
When you do this every time you do something great, you build up your own sense of self-worth. No one else knows all the small and amazing things that you do every day, so of course you are not going to get praise for them. You do know. You know how much effort you put into things, so it just makes sense to give yourself a pat on the back.
So pat yourself on the back for every amazing thing you do today. Count the small and seemingly insignificant things too. Like waking up happy, changing your thought from going down a negative road, to going down a positive one. Praise yourself often, and appreciate that you have the knowledge and self awareness to know all the amazing things that you do. Rock N Roll Jeff & Val
September 24th, 2007
Posted by Val Gee.
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