Everything that we do affects other people some way or another. And if we put forth our best effort it is impacting others in a great way….so let’s do it. Let’s make today a great day. Let’s do everything with our very best effort whether it is something small or big, lets be great! Rock N Roll Jeff & Val
Add comment September 27th, 2007 Posted by Val Gee.
Everything begins with a thought and you choose the thoughts that you want to put your energy and power into. If you have a negative thought like being jealous, anxious, worried or fearful, you choose to give it power by continuing to think about it and add more negative thoughts to it, or you choose to cut the thought off at the knees and think of a more positive thought.
Imagine this scenario: Thoughts are floating around in your space all day long. Some event happens, or a person walks into your space which triggers a certain thought. You then, either water and feed the thought until it grows bigger and bigger, stronger and stronger, or you decide not to water or feed the thought and it dies away.
Moment, by moment we get to choose the thoughts that we feed. And a great way to feed the positive thoughts is to appreciate what is. Appreciate everything good in your life. Appreciate the people, events, situations and circumstances in your life and those positive thoughts will grow and become more substantial as time passes. Eventually these positive thoughts that you are nurturing will become habits and these habits will help you to develop amazing things in your life.
So appreciate, appreciate, appreciate and watch what happens. Notice that the more you appreciate, the more things to appreciate turn up in your life. Rock N Roll Jeff & Val
Add comment September 26th, 2007 Posted by Val Gee.
I was talking to a friend last night who had worked with Clement Stone (founder of AON Insurance companies). He said that Clement always used to say, “To be happy you have to make other people happy.”
This makes so much sense to me. Not only that, it takes us out of the “me, me, me” way of thinking. It brushes aside the introspective way of being, where everything is about how we feel, and how others make us feel.
Making others happy shows us a different way of being because in order to make other people happy we have to listen to their needs, search for ways to make others comfortable, and actually practice the Golden Rule.
Just for today, experiment. Just for today search for ways to make other people happy and at the end of the day, see how it made you feel. Jot down some notes about it so that next time you are feeling low, and miserable, you will remember, that it only takes a moment to make others happy, but the residual affect of happiness within yourself may well last for ever. Rock N Roll Jeff & Val
Add comment September 25th, 2007 Posted by Val Gee.
We all love priase and being told that we are amazing. The best kind of praise you can have howwever, is the praise that comes from within. When you have done a great job, tell yourself, “I’ve just done a great job!” Praise yourself, “I am amazing.” Blow your own trumpet to yourself, “I am really proud of myself.”
When you do this every time you do something great, you build up your own sense of self-worth. No one else knows all the small and amazing things that you do every day, so of course you are not going to get praise for them. You do know. You know how much effort you put into things, so it just makes sense to give yourself a pat on the back.
So pat yourself on the back for every amazing thing you do today. Count the small and seemingly insignificant things too. Like waking up happy, changing your thought from going down a negative road, to going down a positive one. Praise yourself often, and appreciate that you have the knowledge and self awareness to know all the amazing things that you do. Rock N Roll Jeff & Val
Add comment September 24th, 2007 Posted by Val Gee.
We all have boundaries and thresholds and sometimes we push through them without fear and sometimes we push through them with trepidation. Today and just for today, when you get to a boundary or a threshold, know how you feel about it. You can then choose to push through knowing if it is going to improve your situation or not.
It is important to always know how you feel about things because your emotions and your feelings are your barometer of what it is doing to your body, your mind and your soul. If you keep doing things that create a feeling of fear inside yourself then maybe you are doing something that is not the best for you. If on the other hand you are doing something that although fearful, makes you feel really wonderful, then keep on doing it.
Your edge is determined by how you feel. Boundaries are great to push through so that you can expand with joy and happiness. Edges are there to let you know if what you are doing is right for you. So when you get to the edge of somethig today, know how you feel about it, then make the choice, is this going to make me ultimately feel better, or worse. Rock N Roll Jeff & Val
Add comment September 21st, 2007 Posted by Val Gee.
It’s sometimes easy to get so involved in reaching our goals that we forget about how we are getting there. In fact, the getting there is so much a part of the goal that we really should rename goal setting: “It’s not getting there, it’s how you get there that matters.” Of course some people may say, “it’s not how you get there, it’s the fact that you do get there.” But don’t you want to get there feeling great? Feeling happy, fulfilled and full of life?
I heard something the other day that made so much sense to me that I am going to share it with you. “If you are not satisfied with where you are, you will never reach where you want to be.” In other words, if you think you will be happy once you reach your goal, but you are unhappy where you are…you most likely will reach your goal and wonder why it hasn’t made you happy. Goals are just destinations…no more, no less. The journey there is everything.
So start where you are, right now and be happy and satisfied with what you have. That is the whole thing in a nutshell. Be happy now and you will be happy when you reach your goal. Be unhappy now, and you will be unhappy when you reach your goal. It does make sense because the reality is, most people do not wake up one morning really, really happy, if they have been really, really unhappy for years and years.
Now is the beginning of your journey. Whereever you are going, whatever you are doing, be happy now. Appreciate all the things in your life. Appreciate all the people in your life. Appreciate the problems that you have to solve. Appreciate your state of health. Appreciate your familiy. Appreciate your co-workers, customers, your boss. Appreciate the company that you work for. Start now and the rest of your journey will be filled with appreciation, happiness and joy. Rock N Roll Val & Jeff
Add comment September 20th, 2007 Posted by Val Gee.
Everything we do involves other people at some level. Even people in isolated professions need people. In fact, communicating with people is one of the most important things you may do in your life. Because if you cannot be understood, or understand others it makes life very difficult.
So today, just for today, seek to be understood and seek to understand. Listen for the tone of what people are saying, listen to your own tone and understand yourself more. What is it that you really want out of life? And then work on being the best that you can be today, now in this very moment…especially with other people.
Because no matter what you want, or where you want to be in life, the only place you can really start is right here, right now. What you do today will impact tomorrow and the day after that. What you do in this moment will impact the next moment and the moment after that. How you choose to direct your mind, to the negative thoughts or the positive thoughts will determine what you think down the road. So have great thoughts, have amazing relatiionships and enjoy the ride! Rock N Roll Jeff & Val
Add comment September 19th, 2007 Posted by Val Gee.
Oftentimes, we wait for a birthday, or some special occasion to celebrate. In fact we should be celebrating every day because every day is a miracle. Just take a moment to look around and see all the amazing and wonderful things that help us to do our work more effectively. This computer that you are reading the blog from is a miracle. It’s like magic really, here am I typing something that you just moment later can read as easily as having a cup of coffee. How does that happen?
When you begin to live life as if everything is amazing, then amazing things will happen to you. You will find yourself surrounded by people who are doing brilliant things and you will feel uplifted. That’s what this life is about, seeing things from the perspective of, ‘wow this is amazing’ because it really is.
So if you find yourself in a slump, or feeling frustrated today, change your point of view. Look at everything with new eyes. From friends, customers, co-workers and bosses; have a new thought about them. Because if these people were not in your life, it would be a very lonely and boring existence. Just for today then, celebrate your life, celebrate everything you are doing and celebrate all the good things. Rock N Roll. Jeff & Val
Add comment September 13th, 2007 Posted by Val Gee.
You are the most powerful person on the planet because you know that you can choose your thoughts. You know that you do not have to react to events, situations or people. You know that they are doing their thing, and it has nothing to do with you. When you live your life at the affect of other people, it is miserable. And when you live your life in the powerful place of choosing your thoughts, life is amazing.
So today, just for today, if you have a negative thought, whatever it is….choose another thought. choose a thought that makes you feel just a little bit better. Soothe yourself with these good thoughts. They can be as simple as, “I am alive!” and feeling good about having a life. It can be a thought about a good deed that you have done. “Wow, I am an amazing person.”
Every belief that you have is a thought that you have had over time….which has now become a habit. In order to change your habits, change your thoughts. Like last night. I was looking at old photos of myself and thinking wow I looked really good. And then I remembered, that I felt fat back then. So I change the thought. I looked good then, I look good now. I am healthy, alive, and in charge of my thoughts. Now that is powerful stuff. Rock N Roll Jeff & Val
Add comment September 11th, 2007 Posted by Val Gee.
When we communicate with people our language can make it easier by using simple words and thinking about positive outcomes. So for example, if someone is having difficulty, you can look for ways that will ease their situation.
Oftentimes, we think that to make a positive influence in someones life, we need to provide big answers, and big solutions, and really we just have to make a small difference to make a big change.
Like this morning, my eldest daughter is having construction done in her home, and as usual, with construction things go awry, from budgeting to finishing on time. So I listened, and then we went over a couple of things. We decided to do a few things differently and it made a huge difference. Really though, I think it was just because I said, “tell me everything that is going on.” “You are completely right to think the way you do.” “I know we can work this out.”
In other words, we are not looking to change the world, we are just looking for ways to soothe the process. To make someone feel a little better than before you talked to them. To make the situation flow more smoothly. Mostly it means listening, soothing words and focusing on a positive outcome. Rock N Roll Jeff & Val
Add comment September 10th, 2007 Posted by Val Gee.