It’s a Choice
I was talking to a friend whose daughter has just had a breakup after 2 years of being together with her boyfriend. She wanted to start a family; she’s 33 years old and he didn’t. I guess he said things like, “I love you, but I’m not good enough for you.” It reminded me of a movie I recently saw called, “He’s just not that into you.”
If someone wants to be in a relationship they don’t say, “i’m not good enough for you,” they say, “great, I’m going to do whatever I can to be in this relationship.” And if he didn’t want kids, then he would say, “I just don’t want kids right now.”
Being in a relationship is about honesty and having the courage to say what we want and what we don’t want. But I think we’re so scared of not being liked, we just go on and on not feeling quite right, but not willing, or just not sure what to say. Then one day….boom…we’re out of here!
Don’t let that happen to you. Have the courage to say what you feel. Communicate about your feelings. Of course we always want to ask ourselves, ‘is it wise, is it necessary, is it kind?’ And then, if you answer yes to those three questions, then go and communicate. Don’t wait until it gets so bad that a small problem becomes a huge issue. Communicate, communicate, communicate. Rock N Roll Val & Jeff
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